Why do men and women have affairs? That question burns in many minds. Extramarital affairs can happen for many different reasons. If found out it can destroy an entire family and everything you have built together. After some research, I have found the most important reasons why your spouse may cheat. I am going to give reasons for both male and female.
If you are reading this nine times out of ten, you are cheating or have been cheated on or even considering cheating. If you are looking for answers as to why men and women have affairs, then read on.
Men and women are much the same when it comes to extramarital affairs, although there are a couple of differences, read on to find out what they are.
Why do men cheat?
One – Men may feel pressured at home. This will leave him feeling unappreciated. His wife may be nagging him to do more around the house. You know that honey do list you will not let go. Women give it a rest. Your man works hard enough without you telling him on days off, everything that needs fixing. He will eventually get the honey do list done. Just give him some time.
Two – Bills are building up and the wife is staying home and not working. Women get a job and help your husband out! Money issues can cause a divorce. If women help create bills they need to help pay the bills.
Three – Sex can be a big factor in your marriage. If you are not giving your husband what he needs. He will go elsewhere to fulfill his needs. Face it men want sex and lots of it. Ladies spice it up a little to keep his eyes focused solely on you. Use your imagination and some creativity to keep him at home.
Four – Lies are like a betrayal to men. A man may forgive the first lie you tell him, but he will not forget. Lying repeatedly to him will make him feel as though you cannot be trusted. Women you know you do not like it when he lies to you, so stop lying to your husbands. If you have spent more money than you should have, return what you brought, or tell him what you have done.
Five – Men need space to do the things they want, such as fishing, hunting, going out with the friends, etc. Give him this time; he does not have to be with you twenty-four seven. A man needs space to unwind and relax the way he wants. Just because a man wants, time to his self does not mean he does not love you or he is doing something wrong. Its just he wants to have time for himself or with his friends.
Why do women cheat?
One – Women can feel trapped at home. If a man tells her what to do, where she can and cannot go, etc. Not only is this a form of mental abuse but it makes her feel trapped in what is suppose to be her home. Men let your wife make decisions for herself, right or wrong she will learn from it.
Two – As I stated above, sex is a big factor in marriage. Women love romance, give her that before she looks elsewhere for it. Men, you sometimes want sex just to please you, and then it is over. You either go to sleep, get up and do what you want, such as watching television or going outdoors. Men you know I am telling the truth. A woman just does not want a wham bam thank you ma’am. Women need to feel sexy and loved. Bring her a dozen roses when you come home from work. Walk in the house, hand them to her. Put your arms around her, kiss her and tell her how much you love her. You will be surprised at what you get in return. After you have done the deed, just lay there and hold her, do not get up and leave. Most women will love the affection.
Three – Housework, cooking, errands, a career and children can make a woman feel as though she is drowning. Feeling like she is the only one in the marriage taking on the responsibility of everything at work and home. Men, help her out, pick the children up at school or from practice, run some daily errands, cook a meal, pitch in, and help with the housework. This will give her the down time she needs and make her feel good. It lets your wife know you care and do not take her for granted. Besides, behind every good man there is a woman!
Four – Birthdays and anniversaries mean a lot to a woman. On these special days, buy her something nice that you know she will love. A woman will feel appreciated and loved if you do this for her. If you ignore or do not do something special, she will feel ignored, unloved, and make look elsewhere to get what she needs.
Five – Think back to when you were dating your wife. Those were the good days, no stress, no strings, and no worries. Take your wife on a date, go dancing, out to the movies, concert, something you use to do, but no longer do. This will show her you still want to show her off and love that she is your wife.
Men and women should be honest and open in their relationships. Communication is the number one success to a marriage. Without this, you have nothing.
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Written by jennifermoore
Professional writer, school bus driver and mother to four wonderful children.